Adolescents-wait-sex, better off delaying for later. Well worth the wait!Adolescents-wait-sex is not going anywhereIn our society, as in other cultures, premarital sex is becoming an increasingly popular experience for adolescents.The rapid rise in teenage pregnancies is only one indicator of early promiscuity and sexual intercourse. The first act of sexual intercouese which should represent a major event in one's love-life has now become a casual, superficial experience. You need to help me say adolescents-wait-sex is not running away.The transition from virgin to non-virgin is hardly a celebtated event any more. My experience was shocking as a young teacherwho grew up in rural Jamaica, and came to the city to teach in a high school for girls I told them in a class how they should take pride and cherish their virginity. I got the shock of my life when most of them laughed at me. I could not believe it, because I was coming froma culture where virginity for a young girl was a prized possession held in high esteem. However, this is not a universal pattern. A research in Japan shows only seventeen percent of unmarried Japanese females are sexually experienced by age twenty. In the People's Republic of China, most females have intercourse for the first time when they marry, usually about age twenty-four. Some persons are of the view that there is a deterioration in the morals of society. Thirty five forty years ago, a child'sdevelopment was the community responsibility, but now, individualism is the order of the day. Boys and girls relate that the first intercourse resulted from peer pressure and the fact that "everyone else is doing it". No longer do adolescents-wait-sex later is better with a partner whom they love.Often times, the first intercourse is an awkward, painful,spur-of-the-moment event in a make-shift setting. Males in their teen years, are not interested in romance but immediate gratification through orgasm from intercourse. Far fewer females experience orgasm during first intercourse. These teens are exploring, trying to find out something about themselves Effects of first intercourseFirst intercourse is associated with different thoughts and feelings among adolescents. If someone could just say,adolescents-wait-sex is going nowhere. Boys usually attached more significance to the "first time" than girls, reacting positively with joyful emotion and a sense of maturity. Girls tend to react with negative feeling which include guilt or sorrow, yet they hide this reactions from their partners. UnpreparedThe lack of planning and preparation of the intercourse results in females experiencing pain, guilt and anxiety about the experience and a possible pregnancy.Many males lack the knowledge and skill about how best to stimulate a female to createsexual excitement and so must learn by doing. Females experience more pain than pleasure, and the younger the girl is the worse the pain. The Male EgoFor males, sexual intercourse is more of an end in itself. Sexual success is a positive aspect of the male's ego and public image. In this regard, males are most likely to boast of their sexual conquests to their friends to gain admiration and approval.And so I say again, Adolescents-wait-sex is mature responsible adults. An unprepared teenage girl should consider how she might feel about public description of her sexual encounter and possible ridicule for her performance. Parental ResponsibilityAs a family, you need to make quality time with your children. Talk with your teenagers about all aspects of their sexuality. Knowledge is powerful, if they do not get information from the correct source, they could be misinformed, which is dangerous. You have the responsibility as parents to speak with authority, say adolescents-wait-sex is better when you are ready. Advising these teenagers to abstain from sexual intercourse. You should encourage your daughters to say "NO" to sex and your sons to consider the feelings ofgirls, instead of selfishly trying to satisfy their physiological needs and boosting the male ego.
During the period of sexual transition,teenagers are often faced with problems such as emotional maturity, acquiring a bad reputation and inadequate contraception. Inform them that there is more benefits to postpone sexual intercourse as long as possible but at least until theygraduate from high school. It will be well worth the wait. 
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