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Positive-thinking, developing awareness of your inner dialoguePositive-thinking is a choiceWhether you think you can , or you think you can't, you are usually right!A good definition of positive-thinking is one that supports you in being and achieving your best - thoughts that increase your self-esteem, increase your happiness, improve your health, improve your relationships and support the achievement of your goals, desires and dreams.You choose to respond that wayWhatever happens to you in this life, is not really the events that you experience, but rather, it's your reaction to the events, the ways in which you process and react to them. What triggers your emotional reaction to an event is the way you think about the event, not the event itself.For eg. stress and anxiety don't just sit and wait to pounce on you; they are internal, which means they are inside your head. If you consciously choose to make a shift in your thoughts or your perspective on the event, or your beliefs in your ability to perform and cope effectively, you can change and transform your emotional reality and consequently improve your health. Look at the brighter sidePositive-thinking is a diliberate and conscious act. You can choose always to see the bright side of life, because in everything you have opposites. Look for the silver lining behind every dark cloud. How do you see the glass, half full or half empty? It's your choice, it makes a big difference.You first must develop an awareness of your internal dialogue. Examine closely and consciously, how you reason with yourself, you may just be surprise at what you discover, like: "Everything bad happens to me", "I can't do that", "Nothing is happening for me", "That's the way I am, I can't change", "Why am I so unfortunate?", "I can't help myself", "I'm a sufferer". These are a few eg. of everyday expressions by persons who think negatively. Capture these thoughtsThe best way to change here is to notice your thoughts daily, is might be difficult at first, but with some effort you'll succeed. The trick really is to become good at noticing them. Get yourself a note book, and carry it with you and capture as many of these thoughts as you can.Once you become aware of how you think and self-talk, it is easy to view negative thoughts as an enemy to avoid. The truth is, these negative thoughts come naturally as a form of protection from failure or embarrassment. As you engage yourself in this inner dialogue, and make that effort to be positive, you can train your mind to be a victor instead of a victim to circumstances. How do you win?Practise, practise and more practise. Practise always make you better, not perfect. Positive-thinking, like a workout session at the gym, is not a cure but rather a process.Think of it as a healthy habit that you will enjoy practising for your entire life. It's not hard and doesn't take a lot of time to change your thinking, but it does take a lot of repeating. When do you know you have it?There will come a point in your life when a negative thought arises and it occurs simply as an invitation. You experience it now as a choice, not as a command. You are now free to make the choice that is best for your health, your peace of mind and the lives of others.The path way to positive-thinking starts by observing and studying your own self-talk and practise writing, listening and speaking positive affirmations. "Finally my friend, 
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